Building a Practice -
Convincing the Client
Tue, 14 Sep 2010
Continuing step 4 the strategy meeting:
The next step is designed to convince the prospect that you can help
him. If the prospect starts giving you 'buying signals' earlier in the
sequence, you might jump straight to this one, or make it part of the
first session.
I start with drawing a stick figure on one side of the page. I draw a
straight line to the word 'Goal' some distance away.
"We all have goals or ambitions or things we want to achieve right?"
"We use our education - what we have learnt to help us achieve,
Right?"
I draw a box that goes between the stick figure and the goal and
label it memory. (Never use the word 'mind' it seems to have allsorts of
connotations dangerous to fool with etc, and you don't know this
prospect well enough.)
Now I suggest he's been learning from year dot. I draw lines and
lines as I suggest they learn from mother friends newspapers teachers
movies etc etc. I get them to agree.
"But we never inspect these learnings, Right? We assume they are all
correct, Right?"
I go back an put ticks across many lines and cross out a few. "Some
are bound to be incorrect. OK?"
"No wonder we have trouble in our life's' travels Eh?" I draw the
arrow to miss the goal.
"Let me show how I work to fix this."
"Lets start with a picture. Recall a house you once lived in."
Do you get a picture?
Do you get colour?
Do you smell the coffee?
These are all talking points to build interest in the memory.
"The boffins that study these things tell me that there are over 50
different aspects in these pictures."
Do you get ideas about the house" (Big small awful home Etc)
"Do you get feelings in that memory?"
After discussion,
Have you ever noticed how much thinking we do with feelings?
This is the real breakthrough. If the memory contains the wrong
feeling, we will get led astray, right?
Lets look at how we get the wrong emotion.
"I remember 1st year high 1st week 1st math lesson. Revision again!
Mind wanders to the talent I haven't met, or what the surf would be up
to and out of the blue comes "What's the answer to that Wimbush?" A
quick guess inflames Mr Brearly who was a big man who rushed up to me
and thumped the desk. " Pay attention son or you're dead!"
Now I draw a box and put in it: Subject - Math, Idea - I'm an idiot,
Feeling - fear.
"Next lesson I come in determined to behave and concentrate. This
memory is attached to the last one. I now have double the negative
emotion and it doesn't take much for a slip to confirm the idiot bit."
I follow this for a few drawings and then point out that once the
emotional charge builds too much, I have to quit.
I make sure that he sees the relevance of this to his case.
"Have you ever talked a problem over with someone and felt better?"
That was the negative emotion bleeding off."
That's what I do. I get you talking about these learning experiences
until we get back to the basic one and then with the benefit of
hindsight we see that the problem was that I knew it too well and was
bored, not an idiot. And Brearly wasn't about to kill me.
I explain that I work as a coach. I teach how to do things, and where
he has difficulty doing that I bleed the emotional charge off until he
can. Most of the time he knows what to do and has emotional charge that
stops him.
I recommend a number of hours to start and the cost. I have found
that a couple of hours a week is the most efficient.
When would you like to start?
If he isn't positive I ask what is stopping him?
If he wants to think about it , I say sure what is it that you would
like to think about.
EP is a new client and money in the bank.
Errors:
Too much talk and not enough questions.
Not getting the prospect opening up and talking.
Needing the money. Do a good job and it flows.
Not finding the 'Want'!
Not asking him to start.
Letting him talk too much about the want. Its only a problem and will
blow on 2WC and you will lose the client.
Have some fun with it.
Bernie
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